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Over speaking !

I have been accused in the past of over-speaking a phenomena which use to exist when i was at home but came into public life when i entered college life.

Over speaking according to dictionary refers to a term when an individual over does his speech, but a lot depends upon the fact as to explanation of things are done in correct way or not.

No doubt sometimes it may lead to painful and avoidable moments but more than the speaker , one believe it is the listener who throws these paradigms at speakers.

It may also be taken to notice the listener`s choice to hear about the topic that is to say her/his desires which are undoubtedly and unquestionably fueled by the biological necessities and curiosity quest, still might be referred self-discriminatory.

Though one very much wishes to uphold the constitutional right of freedom of the individual but would like to argue that, her/his thoughts might also be a result of too much of advertisements or the information on wish individual is feeding themselves, thereby reluctant into listening about things which might lead to uncomfortable situation for them.

There by again pointing to the fact that how much of a weapon education has become in these “modern” times and our desires fulled by the biological parameters also result in our approach towards life.


One would like to advice the wise intellectuals ,please be more reasonable and have a kaizen approach towards life in which an individual tries to achieve new standards but with a very tolerant and scholarly approach…

Jat ,haryana etc…..

One can never understand that all people stereotype jats to be from haryana. If an individual is jat then he is suppose to be from haryana.Jat people are people who habituate all across sub-continent : Pakistan Punjab, Indian Punjab, rajasthan, Uttar pradesh, Delhi and haryana ( in recent times all across the globe)

Though it seems as though people associate jat from haryana only.

jat in haryana : 26% of population.

Anybody who speaks haryanvi is not jat because 74% of the population is non-jat ie not belonging to this community in haryana.

Some individuals in order to show there macho behavior do tend to say that they are jat but they may not be, this gives bad name to community as people think them as goons and ruckus creators.These individuals misguide others for self serving purposes…..

MYTHS and Stereotypes about jats :

  1. Haryanvi speaking (Really, all people who speak Haryanvi are not Jats).
  2. Beats wife on a daily basis
  3. drunkard
  4. cheap and high on sexual energy
  5. goon and has war-mongering nature
  6. Belongs to Haryana
  7. buffoon
  8. Resistant to change
  9. chauvinistic
  10. Uneducated
  11. An army man ( when educated)
  12. corrupt
  13. power wielder
  14. Makes Jat female suffer.
  15. Too strict
  16. Doesn`t understands love.
  17. Bullock cart owner
  18. Farmer
  19. Bus conductor or owner
  20. Wants only a Government job
  21. Politically sound
  22. a JAT (ie has a lot of mental problems)
  23. Not polite
  24. Unworthy of talking to “educated and classy” females.
  25. Will ruin the life of educated Jat girl. (so she should elope with some non-jat guy, especially if she is beautiful and sexy, after all she needs to find “true love“)
  26. Will beat the hell out of you.
  27. Aggressive
  28. Not business oriented
  29. self obsessed
  30. Low worker class
  31. big land-lords
  32. Doesn`t have polished education but only minimal.
  33. Women are like Mallika Sehrawat or idealize her.
  34. Non- Muslims ( HEER – RANJHA ,Muslim jats and Liaquat ali khan, first prime-minister of pakistan)
  35. Smug
  36. Chaudhary surname people
  37. Cattle people
  38. Jats are biased for each other.
  39. Angry people
  40. Not good in mathematics
  41. Unsophisticated cheapster
  42. There are no jat psychologist
  43. Models
  44. Gets offended easily
  45. Authoritarian
  46. Loud
  47. Women are feminist and men are chauvinist
  48. Dumb
  49. smokers and druggist
  50. Not from Royalty ( Maharaja Ranjit Singh, King of Punjab and Maharaja Surajmal, kIng of Bharatpur)
  51. Racist
  52. Dolly Bindra is a JAT (Bindra is akhatri, don’t know why she doesn’t owns it up and is misguiding people. It is another case of brashful people claiming to be jats and giving bad name to community)

and many more, these are the ones which I remember at this point of time………….

Some stereotypes within jats :

Uttar Pradesh jat : Politician

Rajasthan Jat : sufferer n weak

Punjab Jat : Too powerful, rich , ultra-orthodox

Haryana Jat : Buffoon, Ultra orthodox, power seeker

Delhi Jat : Non-existent, landlords, only source of income rents and buses.

etc…………………… etc…………………………………. etc………………………………..

to help u ease off :

PS: DO NOT SHOOT the messenger .. !!!!!!

Smoking is nuisance about which everybody seems to know but those who smoke choose to look the other way and the biggest culprit in this case is usually the movies which come out in the market portraying it as cool and macho.

Though what is remarkable to see is that how these companies are able to cater it to female stating that  they will be liberated from the clutches of men and  a modern , independent woman smokes a lit bit everyday to show off her freedom and encourage other women to do so by becoming their role models .

There have been many awareness campaigns and studies but it seems not only the uneducated but boys and girls from respectable schools in India and the world find it hard to let go.

One of my friend narrates the incident as to how he started smoking thinking it was cool , in his case he was trying to emulate his elder brother whom he considered to be rockstar and  famous among girls.

He started with light smoking cigarette but to be a man stared smoking heavier cigarettes and in some cases smokes 10-12 cigarettes daily.  When he realized that it was getting too much and destroying his health , he tried to leave it and was successful for 1 month at a stretch too but the body`s desire as reported by him was so strong that he stared it back.

Men have had a history of smoking but things which are the most worry some is that young girls have stared smoking in big numbers. The girls who smoke are either from a poor family or rich and now it seems the wanna be culture has emerged in which young girls don’t want to be left behind in the  party circuit and not want an uncool label from guys in whose eyes they want to be HOT , sexyand available.

If you tell them that smoking is bad and it kills then they have one straight answer for you :

In US girls smoke and in Europe too,  India is such a backward nation , no gender equality “.

It is but remarkable to see how these tobacco  companies are able to get new “clients” , even after a vociferous campaign by the Government and NGOs.

The whole notion that they pass that cigratte amounts to freedom and in movies actors must be allowed to smoke in order to maintain  “artistic rights ” of the movie is completely bogus.

A remarkable movie was also made in this regard in US , though it was a hilarious comedy but it did send out a smart message but it seems that greed plays a bigger role in today`s life after all life of another human being is easily disposable till you are getting what you want.

Animal Kingdom in full swing 🙂

Freedom writers

One the most remarkable movies depicting gang violence and racial tension in US . The way it is written and shown states the fact that how writing does bring a revolution changing perceptions and how a good teacher could really make a difference in students’  life if she/ he has a desire to do so.

What the movie also emphasis is that how much “RESPECT” is important in day to day life activities and why individuals fall back to their respective groups and communities.

It is reflection of human behavior and violence and how kids deal with it.

I loved the movie , hope u too.

One has been watching over the years that warrior tribes or some castes in particular have been subjected jokes and insults in audacious manner people speak behind their backs as to why this guy is so aggressive ,buffoon or he should not be employed in our organization….may it be Gukhas of north east India,Pathans of Afghanistan n India n Pakistan ,jats in Pakistan and india or Sikhs all over the world.

it is funny when dying for nation is considered then these very individuals who insult them want them to “protect” them.

Not only talking about these races but those from business community of north india and specially from a traditional administration communities blur out these racial slurs and these slurs are retaliated back with equally vehemental force.

It is but a very disturbing trend , dis-respects are such as

1. Bengali : will run away on the instance of 1st shot from the gun, Hypocrite, self obsessed pseudo intellectual.(Netaji subhash chander bose , a bengali freedom fighter, doubt that u can use those words against him. )
2. Gurkhas : he is suppose to say “uuu shabji ” and he will be a guard standing outside your home or he will be from nepal , he is suppose to carry an axe along all the time. He is always a friend which you want in terms of war standing besides you, but that is all ! Nothing more than that and a sense of alienation always remains.

3. A business community from punjab khatris : (better known as punjabis )
(now they are suppose be extremely shrewd,cunning, will take your money away and will play with your instincts, most notably if your women (warrior people women in particular and those from not their community  ) are pretty they will be lured on the behest of love and taken away ( a phenomenon of beauty drain in this case )
A question in this regard : don`t the AMERICANS do the same capitalist economy, rich men beautiful women and appreciated : why double standards n what about khatri women ?
(but do spare a though for poor guy who cannot express his feeling in warrior clan, because he is conditioned never to express it and if he does then he is not MAN enough, quite the “KAMINEY” story plus he is poor n dumb as per perception )

4.  Pathan : for their simple and straight forward nature are again and again targeted for their simplicity and dialogs like ” hum pathan hai ” and “oye tum kahmiz kya bolta hai ” is used as a derogatory joke !
A perception or Image is formed via media aspects and through influential circles used often to tell that Pathan are buffons and are at peace when at war !!

(what abt shah rukh khan, khan abdul gafar khan, Imran khan , do they fit these stereotypes developed by the individuals who do not wish to get out of their ignorance cocoon.)

5. Sikhs : for one have always been on receiving end, but i guess they don`t give a rat`s ass about what others think till their gurus` honour is challenged.

The most notable insult against a sikh will always be : “12 o clock” without even knowing the whole story behind it plus some have issues that they are not FASHIONABLE………

This following lines  narrated is an answer to the insult :

    During 17th Century, when Hindustan was ruled by Mughals, all the Hindu people were humiliated and were treated like animals. Mughals treated the Hindu women as there own property and were forcing all Hindus to accept Islam and even used to kill the people if they were refusing to accept.That time, our ninth Guru, Sri Guru Teg Bahadarji came forward,in response to a request of some Kashmir Pandits to fight against all these cruel activities. Guruji told the Mughal emperor that if he could succeed in converting him to Islam, all the Hindus would accept the same. But, if he failed, he should stop all those activities. The Mughal emperor happily agreed to that but even after lots of torture to Guruji and his fellow members he failed to convert him to Islam and Guruji along with his other four fellow members, were tortured and sacrificed their lives in Chandni Chowk.

Since the Mughals were unable to convert them to Islam they were assassinated.Thus Guruji sacrificed his life for the protection of Hindu religion.

Can anybody lay down his life and that too for the protection of another religion? This is the reason he is still remembered as “Hind Ki Chaddar”, shield of India . For the sake of whom he had sacrificed his life, none of the them came forward to lift his body, fearing that they would also be assassinated . Seeing this incident our 10th Guruji, Sri Guru Gobind Singhji (Son of Guru Teg Bahadarji) founder of khalsa made a resolution that he would convert his followers to such human beings who would not be able to hide themselves and could be easily located in thousands.

At the start, the Sikhs were very few in numbers as they were fighting against the Mughal emperors. At that time, Nadir Shah raided Delhi in the year 1739 and looted Hindustan and was carrying lot of Hindustan treasures and nearly 2200 Hindu women along with him. The news spread like a fire and was heard by Sardar Jassa Singh who was the Commander of the Sikh army at that time. He decided to attack Nadir Shah’s Kafila on the same midnight . He did so and rescued all the Hindu women and they were safely sent to their homes. It didn’t happen only once but thereafter whenever any Abdaalis or Iranis had attacked and looted Hindustan and were trying to carry the treasures and Hindu women along with them for selling them in Abdal markets, the Sikh army although fewer in numbers but were brave hearted and attacked them at midnight ,12 O’clock and rescued women.

After that time when there occurred a similar incidence, people started to contact the Sikh army for their help and Sikhs used to attack the raider’s at Midnight, 12 O’clock.

Nowadays, these “smart people” and some Sikh enemies who are afraid of Sikhs, have spread these words that at 12 O’clock, the Sikhs go out of their senses.

6. Dogras :

The Dogras, numbering nearly one million are concentrated north of the River Sutlej (in Jammu, Himachal Pradesh, Kashmir and Punjab) and have carved out India`s northern frontier along the Karakotam.

According to one tradition, the word Dogra is derived from `duggar`, which is ascribed to dvigarta, implying a land of two lakes, the Mansar and Saruinsar. The historical tradition rests on two Chamba copper plates of the eleventh century that have been found which mention Durgareshwar, the lord of Durgar. It is said that Durgareshwar, once attempted to conquer the Chamba Kingdom so the name may well be derived from durgaradesha (the difficult terrain). In any case, the word `Dogra` does not denote a caste but is a term embracing Hindus of all castes as well as Muslims and Sikhs living in the Dogra region and speaking Dogri.
The Dogras excel in martial arts. However, in addition to their joining the defence forces in large numbers, they have also entered other spheres of economic and political activity. Dr. Karan Singh, the youngest person ever to become a member of the union cabinet, and at one time the ambassador to the United States, is a Dogra.
kashmir was under Dogra from 1846 to 1947: Dogra Rule

It troubles one that after the so-called FREEDOM we are still not able to respect each other, is this the cool , modern, liberated India.. ? Where jokes are used as a weapon to tell that though you might be good at war or whatever but we are in command here and will use you and throw you as per own will or constraint in those domains in which you are not good traditionally…….

and those who don`t care and are truly in place to make difference, well they are too educated, too liberated and interested in “get a life” phrase ,that only way to make them think is to bring out a movie on the lines of “RANG DE BASANTI “.

One has always wondered as to what runs inside the mind of people who criticize others for no matter and not acknowledge others feeling but their own.These respective individuals are known as “bullies” , one can find them in schools , play grounds, offices, shops, colleges even at home in some cases.

For starters one needs to understand who are “bullies” and mental conditions leads them into such a state.

  1. Bully is someone who usually tries to correct you for beginners.
  2. If not listened to properly might get aggressive.
  3. He/ she might have an understanding that they are well versed with knowledge and right people to help.
  4. Might have had a turbulent past in terms of relationship and workplace.
  5. Wishes to always pin point flaws in other people (negative personality).
  6. Gives an impression that he/she is understanding but rather gathering points from your conversation to get back at you.
  7. Takes things away from you by act of force.
  8. Always trying to get charged up.
  9. Shows superior intelligence level to the point of humiliation.
  10. They might think bulling is a way of getting popular and getting what they want.
  11. They think calling names being angry , pushing around humiliating is the way normal people act.
  12. Bullies will not know about the hurtful action that they perform.
  13. They pick at people or children who get upset easily and cannot stand up for themselves.
  14. Getting a big reaction out of someone makes the bully feel they have power over them.

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In Cases Of Families :

A father or a mother may be bully pushing his child too hard, whereas he might be thinking he is working for better of the child

In some cases some mothers are worst culprits though it seems very unwise and foolhardy to suggest such examples, though situation can vary if mother is having a strained relationship with father or others.


A male child might be at a receiving end every time when his father behaves like a jerk that is to say not giving attention to wife or the mother might have faced some of the “sexist” or shall one say dishonorable remarks . This behavior of mother may well be characterized as feminist by some people or disciplinary, but one wishes to ask won`t it still called bullish ?

A female child at a receiving end by father because he has gone through humiliation on the hands of pretty girls , upon watching his female child being pretty or wishes to be center of attention of opposite sex , he takes out all his frustration of his past on her. Make her go through humiliation and constant criticism.

These are but a few instances of the whole picture though,these abused children as being one of the cases grow up with certain prejudices about opposite sex and might exhibit a violent behavior and themselves become abusive towards others.( so in this case a cycle)

In cases of races :

Certain races due to their past histories exhibit war-mongering behavior and since some of the traits get institutionalized they are not able view it differently. Children from such backgrounds both males and females have ” violent streak ” in behavior. They tend to be more restless in their approach and more inclined in putting others down. These individuals take a lot of time in getting control over themselves (some have even pointed out about their high sexual energy as a culprit).

When children from these respective races interact with those from other background ie to say non-warrior traits, they rake up a lot of issues.Sometimes this leads to vengeful behavior from other part who tends to take out their frustrations in other ways eg: workplace, educational institutes, parties etc. Their children are abhorred upon and not given adequate chances without realizing that they are being sent back into the same dungeons.

Drinking and smoking by such races also results in aggravating their aggression and thus citing it as a classical case of psychopathy.

Higher Intelligence :

Some individuals due to school or college they went or being from high ended family background tend to have a compulsion to make others feel insulted and  re-establish the firm notion that they are high off or better.These individuals without even realizing tend to exhibit another classical case of bullism where you under value and under appreciate others. In their crazed quest to be correct “educationally” they fail to understand how “uneducated ” their respective approach is probably they might require a dose of humanly religious value in them.

Countries :

Now comes the role of the countries.

In cold war scenario US and SOVIET Unions use to exhibit their intimidation techniques with  other weak countries.

Israel`s aggression towards Lebanon and Palestine could also be termed bullish, though some would like to state that Palestine is full of terrorist but do give a thought to how much of strength does the Palestinians have in front of a nuclear power country like Israel !!

For some time the issue of racism is being raised in Australia by Indians there. They are repeatedly beaten up insulted etc….. It also exhibits a sense of bullish behavior but at a larger scale. In this case the poor of the country, frustrated by their lack of jobs and comfort level target”outsiders”, since they see them taking away their right.

They restore to racial slurs, beating, verbal abuses and in some cases physical violence which may lead to dangerous levels or deaths.

The larger question remains is that……………….. Is India an equally racist aka bullish country or it is part of human nature to be so and the discussion needs to be just brushed under the carpet.

Though your Bullish behavior in India could be seen in :
  1. Religious activities.
  2. One part of India better than other (such as north people insult southern Indians)
  3. Most recently the rise of money have led to formation of money divide : the rich and the poor.
  4. Rich would make a point to be known that he is rich by his snobbery and insulting pointing out his high class education and notably for places where only money or good cloths could get you in, the poor `s response to that is a gang and an aggressive behavior in order to meet her/his ends meet
  5. Your ragging also comes under bullying behavior.
  6. The most evident is the example which i saw one streets of Delhi : a child was running his fingers across a brand new Mercedes and the driver shrugged the child of as thought he was planting a bomb in the car.

There are plenty of such behavior one can see on our day to day life and some times we ourselves are perpetrators into enforcing these behaviors though we try shrug them off or say the respective individual is nuts, lowly educated, dumb or from lower race(ie exhibiting non acceptable behavior of a human race ) ……

Some commonwealth countries seem to be higher on this behavior though we know this as there high headed or colonial hangover.

Classes :

This is one of the basic breeding grounds of unethical behavior. When child pin points at other child citing his “unnatural” behavior according to his/her minute judgment which in most cases she /he has imbibed from family or from peers , one does wonder is the child`s ego talking or intelligence or non-compassionate thinking or she/he is a mere puppet blurring out the line read to him by her/his close associates..

The heavier build children do this by trying force themselves upon lighter children to prove the point as to who is in control here.

One is well versed with the physically bullish behavior but the question arises about the mind games that children play , the will to instill fear among the child by the dominant player.

But the biggest question is from where do we start correcting it…………. ?

may be females could play a good role as mothers, sisters , daughters, girlfriends, wives ………

But only if they fall into the same trap !

One wonder though does one needs to be always bullish can`t a healthy conversation pin point the fact or serve the objective that one desires to achieve or our being correct is so much important that other person must pay with life also in some cases, though one takes a point to think that may be this is the only reason that humans have been able to survive this long and compared to other species they have been more dominant player.. in the ANIMAL KINGDOM !

A movie was made in this regard in Hollywood based on true story named BULLY

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